The Idol

   This is a blog that I do not want to write. I've been avoiding it for weeks. Even now, I sit wondering what to write, how to pen my thoughts.
    I have been fending off an idol for years. An idol that I failed to appreciate in its full destructive power until relatively recently. It probably wouldn't be generally regarded as an idol, in the "evangelical" sense of the word; but it most certainly can be one. I probably should say at this point, this "idol" certainly is not always an idol (as you will doubtless agree). However when it takes the Lord's place in one's heart, mind or soul then it is an idol true enough.

One of my favourite songs at the moment is Greg Long's version of "Love the Lord". We are told to...

"Love the lord your god
With all your heart
And all your
Soul and mind
And love all mankind"

The question is....'do I?'

   The blurb of Timothy Keller's book "Counterfeit Gods" says the following:

Two thousand years ago, the most developed nations in the world worshipped idols, gods of wood and stone. Today we may laugh at their ignorance, but the modern manifestations of idolatry are no less foolish and just as harmful to our wellbeing.

   With that warning ringing in our ears, and with no further ado, I shall tell you about this idol. Although a perfectly beautiful gift from God, this idol, when given the Messianic expectations reserved for the Lord Jesus, can leave people broken and angry. Loneliness and impatience can stem from it and self pity walks hand in hand. It is, arguably, the 'anti-lust' idol, which is why, quite possibly, it is so attractive to young Christians.
    It has multiple biblical examples, both in a good way, as the Lord wished it to be used, but also many more examples of idolotrous use of this gift. Jacob would be a perfect example, perhaps Solomon too.
    Any guesses?



   Well, Timothy Keller aptly describes it as "Romantic Love". The subject of so much of our culture- songs, films, tv series and books. Lives are transformed by its power, nations rocked- remember the case of Helen of Troy! (Or was it Sparta?!)
    Being aquainted with a few young christians from various places and sources, I dont doubt that "romantic love" is held in high regard. Christian couples tend to get married long before non-christian couples. Now obviously we hold marriage on a higher plane than others, being ordained by God; right from the start of the bible we are told:

Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

But do you not ever wonder if Christian singles seek out "love" rather over-zealously? The rise of love-guru Joshua Harris, with his hit book "I kissed dating goodbye", highlights the desire of Christians to find a wife or husband (delete as appropriate) rather than to 'date' multiple partners, and indulge in other sexual affairs. While I totally agree with this and would not dare to confront the brilliance of Mr Harris (for fear of reprival!), this has led to the idoltrous worship of romantic love.
 
    Perhaps I should give you a biblical example. Jacob has been forced from his family home, he has travelled miles across inhospitable terrain. He has arrived in the home land of his distant relations. Shepards are lounging around a well, covered with a stone. Jacob is concerned, why is no one giving their flocks water? "Too heavy" the reply comes back. All of the shepards must be present before the stone is removed, some sort of cultural and manual-handling agreement! But.....

Now as soon as Jacob saw Rachel the daughter of Laban his mother's brother, and the sheep of Laban his mother's brother, Jacob came near and rolled the stone from the well's mouth and watered the flock of Laban his mother's brother.

Jacob jumps to action! Single handedly maneouvering the stone from the well! After much dribbling and dreaming, Jacob appeals to Laban for Rachel's hand. 

Jacob loved Rachel. And he said, “I will serve you seven years for your younger daughter Rachel.”

Seven years! That was quite a dowry! Seven whole years. Jacob was duped by the deceptive Laban, I think. Laban was asking for £150,000*! That's quite a sum. But Jacob doesn't even  negotiate, he dives straight in! Even if it takes seven years of free labour before he could marry Rachel he would still do it, without hesitation!

So Jacob served seven years for Rachel, and they seemed to him but a few days because of the love he had for her.

Keller points out how "bold, graphic and sexual" Jacob's manner is towards Rachel. The young man says to his would-be father-in-law:

“Give me my wife that I may go in to her, for my time is completed.”

Thats hardly the way one would speak to their fiance's father! But Jacob was totally love struck.

    If you read any of my previous blog series on Jacob then you will know that this love caused major problems, Leah was spurned by Jacob, his family was in shreds, deceptions and tricks were commonplace. Rachel and Leah bargained and argued themselves right into Jacob's bed. Rachel even stole Laban's household 'gods'. I don't think that anyone could call their family a happy one!

   In his book Keller asks the question of Jacob: why were you so overwhelmed with love? He goes on to talk about Jacob fixing all his longings upon her. When I read about this, I was really hit by what he said.  This is the "messianic expectation" i was talking about earlier. I have just discovered the quote that Keller  uses on another website. (Which is fortunate because I didn't want to copy it all out!) This is Ernest Becker, a quote from his award winning book "The Denial of Death", he is refering to the modern secular man and something he called "apocolyptic romance":

“He still needed to feel heroic, to know that his life still mattered in the scheme of things… He still had to merge himself with some higher, self absorbing meaning, in trust and gratitude… If he no longer had God, how was he to do this? One of the first ways that occurred to him, was the ‘romantic solution’… The self-glorification that he needed in his innermost nature he now looked for in the love partner. The love partner becomes the divine ideal within which to fulfill one’s life. All spiritual and moral needs now become focused in one individual… In one word, the love object is God… Man reached for a ‘thou’ when the world-view of the great religious community overseen by God died… After all, what is it that we want when we elevate the love partner to the position of God? We want redemption – nothing less.”

   This is quite something. Have I placed this image of my perfect partner in the position of God? To quote Pastor Paul Robie:

Looking to others for the kind of deep affirmation and acceptance that only God can give makes you a SLAVE to “love ”. This is an example of a GOOD thing becoming an ULTIMATE thing becoming your master.

   Here is a question for you (because if you are still reading after this long then you must need something to get your mind working)- Have you placed this idea of "romance", this perfect partner, on such a pedestal? Do you see the 'aquisition' of a soul-mate as THE vital priority? Will this wonder-woman (or super-man) fulfill all of your desires, solve all your problems? Will you be (and I quote) "complete"?

   I have seen, both in my life and others, what happens when romantic love replaces God as your #1 aim. Solomon loved his wife so so much- read Song of Solomon to get a glimpse. However, eventually, she proved to not be enough for his desires. He took hundreds more wives and lovers. None of them filled his void. In his old age he turned to God and saw how his life had been wasted with idols.
   I pray that none of us continue in this rebellion against the Lord God. God's love for us, and His salvation fulfills all of our desires. He is the King of Kings and the Lord of Lords. Song of Solomon shows us, in metaphorical imagery, of the deep love Christ has for His Church.
   When we are free from this idolatry we can enjoy love and friendship and marriage as God intended it. I was reading a book recently, "Friends". In it the author explains how whenever meeting up with single christian women he would view them as 'potential wives', almost on a subconcious level. He would access their candicacy, without noticing what he was doing. I can appreciate what he is saying, becuase I feel the same way. He goes on to say how difficult it was to shake this, to view them as friends and sisters in Christ, rather than future Mr ________s (insert name here).

    I have talked for long enough, but I view this as a vital battlefield, one in which many young christians find themselves. And I pray that we can defeat the flesh and destroy those idols, those "high places" in our lives: which would rip down God and replace him with our man-made images.
   Thanks be to God that He has forgiven His people for their sins and idolatry! Praise the Lord that He doesn't deal with us as we deserve.
  
   Why?

  Because Christ has paid for our iniquities.
  Paul says:

Thanks be to God for his inexpressible gift!